if you ask me, building a relationship can be like working with clay. i know it's a bit cliché, but it's just true.
in the beginning, you hold it in your hands and it just feels so good. it is unusual, slippery, wet, gritty, solid, pleasing. and it moves with you, warms to your touch as you mold it.
with a little work, it will become the perfect vessel for two, to be filled with all the loving things both of you can conjure. you know this, you have planned it all out. you can picture the shape in your minds because you know it in your hearts. it's simply a matter of making it real.
but if your hands are idle, you will feel it start to harden in them. maybe you were too unsure, and you hesitated a bit too long. now you have over-manipulated the clay, your vision is blurred, and nothing feels natural anymore. your hands have grown weary. you might be able to still shape the vessel, but when it dries, the cracks will show. they may be too large to mend.
would it even matter what you put inside it then?
i read a book when i was little that said broken pieces of pottery can be added in with the fresh clay, and it will make the new pots stronger.
stronger and stronger.
i can only hope this is true now.
omg, i cry. u r beautiful mander